Aidan Garza (seen above) often talks about his dad in the present tense, as if David Garza were still right across the living room, sitting in his favorite chair, calling the 12-year-old over to watch a "Star Wars" series.
As if he had never collapsed while out running errands on Dec. 30, 2020, in Converse, Texas. As if he had never died of COVID, one of the now 1 million Americans to succumb to the pandemic.
"He's such a warm guy," said Aidan. "Every time I would hug him, I feel like I'm touching a cloud."
Callaghan O'hare/Reuters
Aidan Garza, 12, poses for a portrait at home in Converse, Texas, Feb. 27, 2022.
No government program at any level is tracking American families such as Aidan and his big brother Julius' in which at least one of a child's primary caregivers has died of COVID, but researchers' estimates put the number at over 181,000.
Deep racial disparities among kids who lost at least one parent or caregiver to COVID reflect the course of a disease that has illuminated inequities in areas such as health care in the United States. Native American children, for instance, are four times as likely to have lost a parent to COVID than white kids.
Callaghan O'hare/Reuters
Margaret Garza hugs her son Julius Garza, 14, in Converse, Texas, March 22, 2022.
Susan Hillis, the lead author of the first major modeling study to determine the numbers of children who lost a parent or caregiver to COVID, published last October in the journal for the American Academy of Pediatrics, said it is crucial that hospitals, schools and churches work together to identify families who lost a caregiver so that children can be protected from neglect and other threats.
While many look forward to the end of the pandemic, families such as Aidan and Julius's show its profound and enduring impact.
"Our 'normal' is not going to be like anyone else's, because we lost someone," said Margaret Garza, Aidan and Julius's mother.
Callaghan O'hare/Reuters
Brothers Julius Garza, 14, and Aidan Garza, 12, say a prayer in honor of their father, David Garza, who died from the coronavirus disease in December 2020, while out to eat in Converse, Texas, March 30, 2022.
SLIDESHOW: Timeline of the global COVID-19 pandemic
Sandra McGowan-Watts, whose husband Steven Watts died in May 2020, has been trying to maintain as much of her 13-year-old daughter Justise's routine as possible.
Last summer, when the bushes in her yard needed to be trimmed, Justise found her dad's hedge trimmers and got to work.
"She does the things that he would do," Sandra said.
Callaghan O'hare/Reuters
Justise McGowan, 13, rests her head on her mother, Dr. Sandra McGowan-Watts, at home in Matteson, Ill., March 16, 2022.
'Never forget'
Not long ago as he walked home from his school bus stop, a blue jay appeared in Aidan Garza's path. It was so beautiful, "I didn't think it was real," he said. "It was so calm, not feisty like the other ones."
Aidan swears that his dad has taken to inhabiting blue jays to keep watch over him.
Callaghan O'hare/Reuters
Justise McGowan, 13, pulls a baking sheet of cookies from the oven, a tradition she shared with her father, who died from the coronavirus disease in May 2020, at home in Matteson, Ill., March 15, 2022.
The boy peppers his conversations about his dad with the lessons he has learned from therapy, which he and his brother have received since their dad died, on how to confront his grief. In talking about his heart and how much he should be thinking about his dad, Aidan says "we always got to save a little spot for him -- and a big spot for emotions."
Aidan's brother, Julius, has trouble with that one.
Callaghan O'hare/Reuters
Justise McGowan, 13, helps her mother, Dr. Sandra McGowan-Watts, clean out the garage that her father, who died from the coronavirus disease in May 2020, used as a "man cave" in Matteson, Ill., March 15, 2022.
At 14, he remembers more than his brother about what life was like before that day late in 2015 when Margaret and David Garza adopted the boys.
Their birth mother had abandoned them. Their birth father was sent to prison for abusing their stepsister, pushing them into the foster care system. Julius is struggling to understand losing David after all he went through.
Callaghan O'hare/Reuters
Aidan Garza, 12, and his mother, Margaret Garza, watch television in Margaret's bedroom in Converse, Texas, Feb. 27, 2022.
"Dad dying was so far the saddest thing that has ever happened in my life," he said. "I can never forgive that."
Gently pressed by his mom to open up, Julius' voice tightens and he says what every father would hope a son would say of them:
"I'm always going to love him," Julius said. "I'll always miss him. I'll never forget him."
Callaghan O'hare/Reuters
Julius Garza, 14, whose father died from the coronavirus disease in December 2020, sits on his bed at home in Converse, Texas, Feb. 27, 2022.
How Reuters has tracked the pandemic
During the coming days, various trackers of the COVID-19 pandemic will reach 1 million U.S. deaths at different times. This variation is due to how each organization counts COVID deaths. For example, Reuters includes both confirmed and probable deaths where that data is available.
The precise toll of the pandemic may never be truly known. Some people who died while infected were never tested and do not appear in the data. Others, while having COVID-19, may have died for another reason, such as a cancer, but were still counted.
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimate that 1.1 million excess deaths have taken place since Feb. 1, 2020, mainly from COVID. Excess mortality is the increase in total number of deaths, from any cause, compared with previous years.
Callaghan O'hare/Reuters
Aidan Garza, 12, (L) Julius Garza, 14, (R) and Margaret Garza (C) pray together next to their father's urn, which they call "the vessel," in Converse, Texas, March 30, 2022.
Callaghan O'hare/Reuters
Julius Garza, 14, accompanied by his mother, Margaret Garza drinks a milkshake at Cheesy Jane's in San Antonio, Texas, March 25, 2022.