To meet the demand, Death Cafes moved online and people met virtually for a frank talk.

       While it sounds daunting – after all, it’s difficult enough to talk about death with friends and family – one thing we all have in common is death and sometimes it’s easier to talk to a sympathetic stranger.

       Helen Latham, a soul midwife and trainer in non-clinical end of life care, who organises death cafés in the Whitley Bay area, says: “At a death café, people come together to share their thoughts, fears and questions about death and dying.

       “We meet for about an hour-and-a-half and anyone is free to ask or say anything they wish, safe in the knowledge that the conversation is confidential.”

       But what if you’re shy? Do you have to approach people and mingle or does someone lead proceedings?

       “It’s always very friendly and welcoming,” says Helen. “It needs to be because it can take a lot of courage to attend something like this; death itself is such a taboo subject.

       “There is no set agenda at a death café. This is deliberate because it’s important that people can bring whatever topics or issues to the discussion that they wish.

       “My role as the host is to create the safe space where this discussion can happen. If people are shy to begin with, I have some general statements on standby that can get people talking, such as, ‘If you knew this was the last day of your life, what would you do?’ or ‘what does it mean to die with dignity?’”

       Other discussions might revolve around what would make for an ideal death, what happens after we die and how would we go about planning for end-of-life care?

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       The feedback Helen receives is that people feel better about death after attending a session, and can be more willing to speak to their loved ones about their future wishes. One lady, for example, told Helen she felt more confident about expressing and planning her own funeral wishes after she visited a death café.

       And you don’t have to be dying to attend one. We all have a natural fear and anxiety about death, even if we’re at the peak of physical health. Discussing the subject can be a relief.

       Helen first attended a death café about three years ago and, as someone keen to end the taboo about dying, decided to set one up in her own area in the North East.

       It was surprisingly easy to do – anyone can arrange to host one and there is lots of support as well as information on where to find café meet-ups on the website www.deathcafe.com.